Ok so today i was perusing other peoples blogs looking up my favorite subject: Side Chicks. And believe it or not society is actually sympathetic to the plight of side chicks. Yes i said sympathetic and plight in regards to side chicks. I know some people have preconceived notions about side chicks but at the end of the day most of them are like pit bulls. They are just fun loving creatures looking for love from a decent owner and sometimes family, but have been stigmatized by society. There has been a label placed on them as home wreckers, Jezebels, skanks, harlots and etc. But the truth of the matter is that the main chick is the true home wrecker 90% of the time (Note: 90% of all statistics are made up). I'm not just going to drop a bomb like that and walk away. I'll break it down for you.
I have a few partners (as in home boys not to be confused with domestic partners) who have side chicks. Some have been married for decades, some are newly weds, and some are just dating. Their ages, races, upbringing, political orientation all differ, but one thing connects them all. That longing or desire for something the woman they thought they loved just wont or cant give them. For the main chicks out there let me say this first, you're man loves you. that's why he is still there. That's why you get Ruth Chris' and she gets Outback at the most! There are some men who just have an insatiable appetite. Appetite for sex, or some genre of stimulation. I have a friend who is cheating on his wife in every sense of the word, but has never touched the woman he is cheating with, Rather he makes love to her mind, the sneak around and meet up to discuss politics and current events. The rush he gets from that mental stimulation is unmatched he says. He thinks he could get in her draws but the ecstasy he gets from the conversation is so much joy that he doesn't dream of crossing that line. I remember one day we were talking and I asked him what made him realize that she was the one. The answer was so simple, he told me they were having casual conversation over a friendly lunch and he accidentally said the word, 'cognizant' and she understood it and actually gave him slight praise for using it. Let me tell you. I was astonished! Something so simple opened his mind, eyes and heart to a woman he may or may not have ever seen in that light before.
After that i really began inquiring from my other friends. The answers were astonishing. They ranged from, 'because she cooks better' to 'she's in the same field of work as me'. These responses left me with the understanding that sometimes there is almost nothing a woman can do to keep her man completely satisfied. But there are other times where women just don't want to do what it takes to keep their man pleased. Now i know what some of y'all are saying. "If he gonna cheat then he should leave! Don't put his unfaithfulness on me!" and blah blah blah. And in a perfect world. A world of black and white that would be true. but in reality there is of grey matter, and a lot of it. I suddenly got tired. I'll finish this when i feel like it!
